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Welcome to My New Healing from Narcissistic Abuse Blog

Warriors against Narcissists

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde.

This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this new blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.

Hi, I’am 40 something Aussie female, living in North America for the last decade. I have started this blog to help me write-out (for lack of a better word) my problems to with the purpose of healing.

I am also doing a bit of travelling, so I hope to keep this blog as a journal of those stories as well as my mental health journey as well!

I am unable to work at the moment due to my mental health problems which have seemed to gotten worse as I have grown older, probably due to the fact I have tried to be tough and suppress them so I can get on with life. Therefore this blog is a way of giving me something to do, and to get me back into writing as I used to have such big dreams of being a novelist.

Thank you for reading, and feel free to comment, hearing that I am not alone in my struggles helps a great deal!

Freeze Response

So, I was having a good day on Friday, then had an enounter with a rude person, the inevitable in a society that seems to reward narcissim.

This sent me into the freeze response which I can spend hours, days in.

I live in a smallish rural town of about 3,000 people, I won’t be able to avoid running into this person again. There is some part of me reasoning that they were just maybe having a bad day, but the little girl part of my is terrified, and that part of me takes over more often than not.

I think there is also an angry teenager that thinks I am gossiped about all the time and that there is a vendetta against me. Sounds crazy when I write it down, but she has a lot of anger that was never allowed to be expressed. I guessing she is the fight response to trauma.

The freeze response is something that I have discussed with my therapist, it is a common reaction to trauma. There is apparently some sort of chemical involved, I have not found any mention of it on the internnet yet.

Trying to do some diaphramatic breathing and talking soothingly to little me. It does work for me, but it is hard to remember to get into the habit of doing it.

I hope life is treating you well, and if you feel like me you are getting the support you need!

Found an article on the freeze response, not much info on it though.

https://trauma-recovery.ca/impact-effects-of-trauma/fight-flight-freeze-responses/

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Self-Doubt

Work up this morning wondring what I was thinking starting this blog. Who do I think I am, who would want to read this (insert sound of abuser(s) voice here),

These thoughts have been programmed into my mind over a long period of time. Why do people have to put others down to make them themselves feel superior.

I could never imagine myself doing that to anyone. Sometimes I feel like I have a sign flashing above my head that say “She is already broken, easy target”.

I hope your day is going well, and if you feel like me I hope you are getting help!

Here’s a link to an article that I have recently read that I think is relevant:

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-26165/5-lingering-effects-of-emotional-abuse-and-how-to-heal-them.html

My 1st Anxious Entry

Hi,

I hope you are OK!

I have started this blog in the hope that, through the act writing, I and others can discover the path to recovery after suffering narcissistic abuse as a child or at any time during their life.

I won’t go into the details of my abuse, I think that it doesn’t really matter what extent of abuse you have suffered, the fact that it happend is important and the that you find a way to heal is important.

I am not in any way an expert on mental health by the way, as I have already said, I just want to use writing as a tool for recovery! Stay tuned while I work this blogging thing out.

PS: I’d love to follow your own blog if you have one too, feel free to send me a link!

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